A.J. & Dan
Healing your life and psychological well-being can be as simple as doing a few practical actions that increase your self-esteem. However, you have to expend some energy in order to do so, and yes it can take a little money and a little effort, but everything requires both money and effort. That is a fact that we should have grown used to by now. 

Healing your life can be as simple as getting a haircut, buying some new clothes, taking some nice photos of yourself, and then going out into public to allow others the opportunity to give you the healing compliments that will further solidify your progress. Sure it takes a little effort and confidence to bring yourself out into the public eye, especially if you have been down in low energy, but it will pay off when others acknowledge your efforts. This is part of the process of closing the gap between you and money - wealthy people generally take care of themselves. Your physical appearance is important because this subtly communicates to everyone your deep innermost feelings about yourself. To look rich is to feel rich and to feel rich is to be rich. 

Now many of you may not care about being rich, and you may associate negative emotions towards wealthy people. Don't judge others - it robs you of your self-worth. Ironically I have found that poor people and middle class people are just as likely to judge the wealthy as wealthy people are to judge the less wealthy! Let me offer an interesting and slightly bizarre exchange of events that happened when I was in Asheville, North Carolina recently. I was there spending some time downtown with my cousin who recently moved there. We made our round through a few bars, talked to several people, played some music with a homeless group of troubadours, and spoke Mandarin to a Chinese restaurant owner. It was a good night. I was wearing a nice blazer, jeans, tennis shoes, and a collared shirt. I was just wearing my normal day-to-day clothes for when I am out and about - it wasn't anything extravagant - but I was dressed a little nicer than most people around. As we walked outside the bar there was this homeless man standing outside with this huge 4 feet tall pearl white Teddy Bear. He was going on with a story about how it was his daughter's Teddy bear and she just passed away, and he was going to give it away to one of the women inside the bar. He continued talking about the bear and how his daughter loved it dearly and how much it means to him. Now keep in mind the bear looked brand new and he more than likely did not carry that thing with him everyday for 6 years, it was still white and clean. So he went on telling the people that was sitting out front of the bar how he was going to give it to them and they should take good care of it. Whenever he looked over at me I asked him "What should they feed it?" 

This is when the man and woman sitting there at the table flipped out. The black bearded 6 foot tall man stood up and starting screaming at me saying something along the lines of "DON'T DISRESPECT HIM!" I calmly looked at him and quietly said "Don't worry, I have this under control." Now in the commotion of the chaos that was quickly evolving the homeless man began to cry. When I saw that he was upset I went over to him and placed my hand on his back and starting talking to him sincerely to calm him down. I apologized and told him I didn't mean to upset him. Then the couple that was screaming at me came over beside us and starting trying to calm him down also. Once he had calmed down the lady began talking to me telling me how I should never judge people that it was not my place to judge people. I found this rather ironic because I had no judgment at all - I was just trying to joke with the man. When in fact she was the one that was judging me because of the way that I was dressed. Not to mention the man did not become upset until her husband started screaming and escalated the situation. After things calmed down I asked the man if he wanted a beer. He said yes so I gave him $10. The couple failed to see the man was just playing a psychological game with us to get someone to buy him a beer. Instead they bought into his pity game and attacked me when I made a joke about the bear. Yet in the end everyone got what they wanted. The homeless man sold the bear and got a couple beers, the couple felt they defended someone in need, and I got an interesting experience to go down in my book of strange situations that I have gotten myself into. So the point of this story is to demonstrate that it isn't necessarily always the wealthy people that judge the poor, the poor can judge the rich, and even the middle class can judge the poor & the wealthy. In reality I am just a normal guy with a normal income, but I choose to dress nice because that is how I feel the best. Dressing nice I get judged probably more often than the poorest of the poor because I stand out more. Interesting huh? 

Now moving on with what this has to do with healing your life.

Not all healing has to be mystical mumbo-jumbo, and for the most part, the most powerful healings are the practical things that you can do to better yourself. But almost all healing comes from within, so you have to focus on healing yourself with taking action. There may be people who remind you of your potential, but ultimately you are your own shaman, you are your own guru, you are your own guardian angel. You must identify with your spirit and acknowledge your divine power within, and sometimes before you can identify internally you must do some external actions that further solidify the power internally. This is why taking care of yourself is so important. It is difficult to feel good about yourself if deep down you know you are not healthy, but the reverse trick is to affirm in your mind that you are healthy and you are making progress to make the changes in your life. For example: at one point in my life I got up to 210 pounds. That is very big for me, considering just a few years ago I weighed 145 pounds. I was a small thing, so when I was writing my first book, "The Book of Powers" I had some negative emotions towards being overweight. These negative emotions were not doing me any justice, but I was trying to convince myself that I needed to lose weight. I have since then lost weight and edited out the anger I was experiencing towards myself in the book, and have replaced that section with an attitude that is more loving and positive. But the point is if you have negative emotions about yourself it makes it that much more difficult to manifest the changes that you want. Instead, replace the self-hating thoughts with powerful thoughts that evoke healthy responses. If you feel that you are slipping and beginning to lose control of your physical health, instead of saying "Man I am overweight and getting fat." Replace that affirmation with "I am growing healthier each and every day." Saying the latter affirms it into your subconscious that you are making a conscious effort to change. Saying the first one further solidifies that you are just a worthless slob and you are not going anywhere in life, and that just digs you deeper and deeper into the despair of depression.

Finally, in closing remember that people judge the perceived wealthy just as often if not more often than people who judge the poor. Judgement does not serve anyone justice. Take care of yourself, get the haircut, buy some nicer clothes, take some pretty photos, and get out and go do something that makes you feel good. 

Have fun. (AJ)


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